Would you call it a fairytale romance that gone awry? Or would you say that it was not a fairytale to begin with?
Well, there are many debates going on about the prominent issue of "Chris Brown assaulted Rihanna". On the covers of magazines, radios, headlines in newspapers and gossip entertainment news. The media portrayed Chris Brown as an inhumane and violent boyfriend. One who could even lay his hand on the person he loved dearly. The fact that he grew up in an environment where violence occurred between his parents and within his family, could possibly be one of the reason why he assaulted our leading pop princess, Rihanna. Such visual exposure to violent acts and living in such a hostile and undesired environment might have triggered the violence innate in him.
we cannot deny the fact that we all view abusive relationship in a negative manner. We are taught by our omniscient parents that bashing a friend up is inappropriate, much less a girlfriend.
I view it in a two-way approach. In a female point of view, i agree that Chris Brown should not beat Rihanna up. After all, she does not belong to him. But most importantly, he should not act like a delinquent. Maybe at that moment in time, he could not control himself. But even so, i do not encourage violence to take place. Can you imagine the impact it had on the fans? Fans totally adore him, regarded him as their role model. However, do you think that their mentality on abusive relationships will change after knowing what their idol had done?
Instead, a public figure like Chris should attain the qualities of a gentleman. As the Chinese saying goes," jun zi dong kuo bu dong shou". it means that a real gentleman should use words in replacement of violent actions.
In a relationship, it takes two hands to clap. Have u ever wondered what issues provoked Chris Brown just minutes before the heated argument? Do you think that Rihanna is totally innocent? I beg to differ. However, the law states that we should not resort to violence in any circumstances. if we did, the outcome would not be in favour to us.
Relating this issue to out society, how would you view abusive relationships?
I perceive relationship as a connection between couples. We look upon each other as an emotional,mental and physical pillar of support. There should not, i repeat, should not be anyone staying in an abusive relationship. i mean, i agree that this issue is very subjective. There are still a vast number of people staying in an abusive relationship because they "assume" that things will get better, or they put the blame on themselves, or they simply just cannot let go. On the other hand, i stand by my morals and feel that abusive relationships will end up nowhere.
a big shoutout to girls out there who has abusive boyfriends: DUMP THEM!!! :)
Well, there are many debates going on about the prominent issue of "Chris Brown assaulted Rihanna". On the covers of magazines, radios, headlines in newspapers and gossip entertainment news. The media portrayed Chris Brown as an inhumane and violent boyfriend. One who could even lay his hand on the person he loved dearly. The fact that he grew up in an environment where violence occurred between his parents and within his family, could possibly be one of the reason why he assaulted our leading pop princess, Rihanna. Such visual exposure to violent acts and living in such a hostile and undesired environment might have triggered the violence innate in him.
we cannot deny the fact that we all view abusive relationship in a negative manner. We are taught by our omniscient parents that bashing a friend up is inappropriate, much less a girlfriend.
I view it in a two-way approach. In a female point of view, i agree that Chris Brown should not beat Rihanna up. After all, she does not belong to him. But most importantly, he should not act like a delinquent. Maybe at that moment in time, he could not control himself. But even so, i do not encourage violence to take place. Can you imagine the impact it had on the fans? Fans totally adore him, regarded him as their role model. However, do you think that their mentality on abusive relationships will change after knowing what their idol had done?
Instead, a public figure like Chris should attain the qualities of a gentleman. As the Chinese saying goes," jun zi dong kuo bu dong shou". it means that a real gentleman should use words in replacement of violent actions.
In a relationship, it takes two hands to clap. Have u ever wondered what issues provoked Chris Brown just minutes before the heated argument? Do you think that Rihanna is totally innocent? I beg to differ. However, the law states that we should not resort to violence in any circumstances. if we did, the outcome would not be in favour to us.
Relating this issue to out society, how would you view abusive relationships?
I perceive relationship as a connection between couples. We look upon each other as an emotional,mental and physical pillar of support. There should not, i repeat, should not be anyone staying in an abusive relationship. i mean, i agree that this issue is very subjective. There are still a vast number of people staying in an abusive relationship because they "assume" that things will get better, or they put the blame on themselves, or they simply just cannot let go. On the other hand, i stand by my morals and feel that abusive relationships will end up nowhere.
a big shoutout to girls out there who has abusive boyfriends: DUMP THEM!!! :)
Abusive relationships will not end up anywhere. I absolutely stand by Vanessa on this. If a relationship has too many disagreements and heated arguments, couples should really learn to let go of their attachments. There is no point staying with a person who doesn't know how to communicate beyond using their fists and strength.
ReplyDeleteI think it doesn't matter if you come from a male or female perspective, violence never solves anything.
ReplyDeleteTo me, a relationship doesn't have to be physically violent for it to be called abusive. Men as well as women, go through abusive relationships. An abusive relationship is a relationship where one partner mistreats the other.
Sometimes, the media portrays people in a certain light. It shows the public what it wants people to see. For example, a celebrity who scolds his/her child in public would be seen as a parent who could be abusive. It only portrays a one-sided view on things and people.
Think twice about what you read! It might not always be true!
Edwina here (:
ReplyDeletePersonally i think abusive relationships are on a rise nowadays.. And its always the case of the guy hitting the girl... And sadly, blinded by love, the girl still choses to stay in the r/s thinking that the guy will change. In most cases, the guy doesn't change. Abusive relationships will really end up nowhere. I don't think any girl can stand being hit by their partners everyday.
As for chris and rihanna's case, i dont think chris should still hit rihanna so badly no matter what she said or what she did to provoke him. A gentleman should never ever hit a lady. Guys who are abusive should just throw aside their big ego and get help if they want to make r/s work.
i feels that every human being should be treated with respect. Everyone have the right to be in a healthy relationship. In fact vanessa, abusive relationship not only applies to physical abuse, it also applies to emotional abuse like teasing and humiliating of the other half which unknowingly happens to many relationship as well.
ReplyDeleteI greatly disapprove on ABUSIVE relationships. Being in a relationship is where two individuals are in love with each other and are able to communicate. If one do not know how to communicate with another in the right manner and had to resort to violence, there is no point to hold on to this relationship.
ReplyDeleteWith regards to van's opening statement, I personally think that it is a fairytale romance that gone awry instead. Every relationship always begins like a fairytale romance where it is sweet and both parties will present their best sides. However, as time passed, both parties will tend to slowly reveal their true nature and this is when abuse may occur in the relationship.
Lastly, I do not totally agree with the media's perspective on the Chris Brown's issue. As no one will know what exactly happened between them except for the two parties who are involve in it. Hence, media's side of story may not be hundred percent true and it may tend to be bias to one party. However, I am totally against the use of violence to resolve issue.
from gerald:
ReplyDeleteHey Van. Gerald here. First of all, i would like to say violence in any kind of relationship in this world is generally frowned upon. Violence is probably the lowest a person can go to settle a problem/issue/relationship. It shows that the person who uses violence has absolutely no self control and reflects on the persons character (as a bad one that is not refined nor gentlemanly). Even if Chris Brown DID own Rihanna in a way that a master owns a slave, it is still wrong to met out abuse on a fellow human being.
Now about relationships. Sadly i have to agree with you that many people are still stuck in abusive relationships in the hope that it will get better. That is why i have to shoutout to all people in relationships now. OPEN YOUR EYES WHILE YOU ARE DATING A PERSON. Its not all lovey dovey and things will get better so long as we work at it. How much each person is willing to put into a relationship and work at it is also a very important criteria to look at when choosing a partner.
But i would like to end off with this. VIOLENCE is never the resolution of a problem. It usually just causes more problems in the future.
Yes,i would have to agree with your stand on this issue. Any form of violence should not be tolerated in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteand i share the same sentiments with Terence, with regards to the issue of media transparency. As i am quite doubtful about media's reports on many issues myself.
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ReplyDeletelike everyone else here, i'm against violence; it defnitely isn't a solution. and i agree that it takes two hands to clap. perhaps rihanna might have provoked him in the first place, but this wasn't reported. what made headlines was just the leading pop princess getting abused, without providing detailed reports of the before. hence like adrian, i agree with terence that the media portrays people in certain light. there definitely wouldn't be reports of a plain Jane getting abused by her boyf.
Who in the right mind would be like to be in an abusive reltionship? Regarding Chris and Rihanna, i'm sure it was a two way thing. She must have provoked him somehow in order for him to hit her. Look what happens after they got into court? They were still rumoured to be seen together. Is Rihanna really so forgiving, or was it just guilt and love that pulled her back to Chris.
ReplyDeletelike ghostwiththemost said, violence never solves anything, talking things through is always the best thing to do.
I believe that there is always a source to every action that is done. However, inspite of this, violence is definitely out of question. There are many difference ways to protray one's feelings without the use of violence. I feel that not knowing how to control one's feelings and hence resulting in violent actions only show the immurity of the person.
ReplyDeleteI agree that one should never resort to violence no matter what the situation is. Violence will not solve everything. I believe that one's growing up experience will certainly influence their perception and behaviour. Although it is true that in most abusive relationship, the male is always the aggressor. However, recently there was a newspaper article that said that the woman used her heels to hit the guy's private part. Even though I am a female, I still think that it is wrong of that woman to do that. Anyway, everything boils down to "it takes two hands to clap".
ReplyDeleteyes violence is a BIG no in solving any conflicts or arguments! i personally feel that violence will not solve the root of problem,but rather aggravate the situation. What people need is communication,and not resort to using their fists.
ReplyDeleteI will think that a violence in a relationship will not carry thing far into the future. Although there may not a statistic regarding violence in a relationship,there is bound to have some at every corner. In the case of Chris Brown,he do not possess the rights to beat up Rihanna even though he might use reasons like grown up with family violence or get carried away.
ReplyDeleteJust bring us to attention,recently Singapore has even got a case which involves Pathip Selvan Sugumaran and Jeevitha Panippan. It has shows us there is always a limit to Pathip's paitence as he always resort to violence when he is with his girlfriend quarreling over couple matter.In the end,a sad ending.She was stabbed by him and died. So, in short violence can turn ugly even when it started off in a couple quarrel.
Beating up your girlfriend is a no no.
the reason why girls insisrt of not letting their abusive boyfriend is also because thney are really blinded by love and the guys would alkways sweet talk them to melt their heart so that they would give them endless additional chance.
ReplyDeletewhat the girls should do is that they should stand up for theier own rights and they should not let someone else control your life or evern makeyour life suffer.i had a friend who had a abusive bpyfriend and she let out her misery by self mutilation!my point is that dont let sa wortless and selfish guy destroy your life!you deserve a better and carefree life! (: girls rule!