Knapp model

Ride for you- Danity Kane





"Ride For You lyrics"

[Verse 1 - Aundrea]
Lately, I've been tryna fight whatever's pulling us under
it's got a hold and really making me wonder
what it takes to get through
I gotta stick with you, my baby
Baby tell me:
Maybe I'm foolishly overreacting
But being without you I can't imagine
It's just to close to the heart and
And I won't stand it if were broken apart

[Chorus - Group]
Do you hear me?
Baby ya gotta believe in the things that make you & me win together
Don't you throw in the towel
I'm keeping my promise to you I got ya back now
When the chips are down
It seems like it's so hard for you to move ahead
Just know that I am by your side
There aint no ifs, buts, or maybes,
I'm gonna stay down and ride for you baby

[Verse 2 - Dawn]
We've been cutting it close with the backwards & forwards
It's rocking the boat; we gotta get control of this
Let's take it back to three years ago
When you said that we could make it through whatever, ever
And to me it sounded like you meant forever, ever
Leaving was not an option, baby, never, never
Now don't you believe in a love that's worth a fight
In you is everything that I'm missing
So give us a chance

[Chorus]

[Verse 3 - D. Woods]
Don't you dare tell me we gotta let it go...
We been on top for too long just to let it go under
I don't wanna hear that
I just can't hear that
and know
Wherever you wanna take me
I'll go
I been with you for too long to start over with another
I know that you hear me
Just tell me you hear me

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Knapp model
1)Initiating
2)Experimenting
3)Intensifying
4)Integrating
5)Bonding
6)Differentiating
7)Circumscribing
8)Stagnation
9)Avoiding
10)Terminating

The stages in Knapp model are not linear. Relationships may regress to a previous stage or skip a step. Sometimes, the period of stage 1 to 5 is shorter than stage 6 to 10. In fact, couples whose relationship has terminated(stage 10) can go back to stage 4. With reference to the lyrics, it states that "Don't you dare tell me we gotta let it go... We been on top for too long just to let it go under " and "I been with you for too long to start over with another". This means that some people stay on with their current partner just because they have been together for a long time. Even if they have arguments, it became a habit. sometimes, one can be immuned to it. Also, they are lazy to find another partner to love again.

I once thought that my first relationship would be my last too. But sometimes no matter how long you hold on and endure the pain, the outcome will still be the same. Things will not work out, even if i keep staying optimistic about everything. If it not meant to be, it will not last.

so what do you think? Share your experiences!!! :)

non-verbal communication

Movie: The Ugly Truth

What does it mean by an ugly truth? To me, its when the truth that hurts...

The plot:

A romantically-challenged morning show producer Katherine Heigl(abby) is embroiled in a series of outrageous tests by her chauvinistic correspondent,Gerard Butler(mike), to prove his theories on relationships and help her find love. His clever ploys, however, lead to an unexpected result.

Trailer:

In this particular movie, Katherine went on a date with this hunky guy,Eric Winter(Colin),who is her new neighbour. She was attracted to his physique,good looks and his occupation(doctor). This links to non verbal communication. Where his physical appearance (age,height,body type etc) attracts her. In this case, Katherine is the receiver as she attach meaning to non-verbal cues. With the help of Gerard,she specially spurge money on sexy dresses and shoes, had hair extensions to portray a more feminine look. This is because men are visual creatures(sickening!), thus first impression is very important. The perception that she wants to portray to him is a type of girl that guys want to protect,but instead, she still cannot hide the fact that she is the domineering kind of girl.

I like this movie because it is very humourous, although there are times where i do not understand their jokes at all. The storyline is simple, direct and applicable to people who just started dating. Your knowledge of the other gender will improve, and you will know what the other gender is actually thinking and understand them better.

This movie also teaches us something. At the last part of the movie, it shows that we still have to be ourself despite having another person in our life. We cannot change our own behaviour, personality, preference just to suit the other party. For example, when Eric fed Katherine cheese by the lake,she ate it just to show that both have the same taste of food and are similar. But as soon as he turned his head away, she spitted it into the pond. Obviously she doesn't like cheese.

Katherine and Gerard were enermies in the beginning. As the story goes on, they became friends while helping Katherine and Eric to get together and then lovers after getting to know each other better. In this way, it makes the story much more interesting. It is definitely worth watching this particular romantic comedy movie, the ugly truth.

P.S: you have to be above 16 to watch it!

celebrities and law

Katie Price-model

http://entertainment.sg.msn.com/Celebrity-Gossip/article.aspx?cp-documentid=3595950

Personally, i think its very foolish of katie to not report the rapist to the police. Just because the rapist is a 'famous celebrity', does that mean that a celebrity can get away with crime and punishment when others cannot? How unfair! Everyone is equal, regardless of race, gender or status. i do not perceive one to be more superior just because they are celebrities. Celebrities are still humans. They do not possess any special magical powers nor any special abilities.

Another issue i wanna emphasize is that katie always wear super low cut dresses or blouses,revealing almost her whole artificial breast. The sexy vibe that she gives people and her skimpy and daring fashion sense, its not surprising that she is the prey for rapists. I feel that fashion sense should be kept classy and simple. dressing in a slutty way is a fashion disaster. A big no no! perhaps, it brings disaster too.(attracts rapists)

Ultimately, im amazed that katie price did not report to the police. To think she actually know the person who raped her, isnt it very painful to keep it to herself? As long as she was violated, she ought to report to the police. Not only can she stand up for her own rights, but she can also send the rapist to jail and make the society a safer place to be in. By reporting to the police, she can indirectly convey a message to females out there that we should not keep quiet and suffer in silence after being assaulted.

On the whole, i feel that allowing the rapist to go scott-free, he will be unfazed by his previous attempt and will continue to sneak an attack on others. This is stark madness! I would rather wonder whether katie will bring him to justice rather than ponder on who will be his next victim.

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Abusive relationships

Would you call it a fairytale romance that gone awry? Or would you say that it was not a fairytale to begin with?

Well, there are many debates going on about the prominent issue of "Chris Brown assaulted Rihanna". On the covers of magazines, radios, headlines in newspapers and gossip entertainment news. The media portrayed Chris Brown as an inhumane and violent boyfriend. One who could even lay his hand on the person he loved dearly. The fact that he grew up in an environment where violence occurred between his parents and within his family, could possibly be one of the reason why he assaulted our leading pop princess, Rihanna. Such visual exposure to violent acts and living in such a hostile and undesired environment might have triggered the violence innate in him.


we cannot deny the fact that we all view abusive relationship in a negative manner. We are taught by our omniscient parents that bashing a friend up is inappropriate, much less a girlfriend.

I view it in a two-way approach. In a female point of view, i agree that Chris Brown should not beat Rihanna up. After all, she does not belong to him. But most importantly, he should not act like a delinquent. Maybe at that moment in time, he could not control himself. But even so, i do not encourage violence to take place. Can you imagine the impact it had on the fans? Fans totally adore him, regarded him as their role model. However, do you think that their mentality on abusive relationships will change after knowing what their idol had done?

Instead, a public figure like Chris should attain the qualities of a gentleman. As the Chinese saying goes," jun zi dong kuo bu dong shou". it means that a real gentleman should use words in replacement of violent actions.

In a relationship, it takes two hands to clap. Have u ever wondered what issues provoked Chris Brown just minutes before the heated argument? Do you think that Rihanna is totally innocent? I beg to differ. However, the law states that we should not resort to violence in any circumstances. if we did, the outcome would not be in favour to us.

Relating this issue to out society, how would you view abusive relationships?

I perceive relationship as a connection between couples. We look upon each other as an emotional,mental and physical pillar of support. There should not, i repeat, should not be anyone staying in an abusive relationship. i mean, i agree that this issue is very subjective. There are still a vast number of people staying in an abusive relationship because they "assume" that things will get better, or they put the blame on themselves, or they simply just cannot let go. On the other hand, i stand by my morals and feel that abusive relationships will end up nowhere.

a big shoutout to girls out there who has abusive boyfriends: DUMP THEM!!! :)